The Answer to an Oh so Happy Valentines Day!

Valentines day is now only 2 weeks away! I hope you are already thinking about what to do with your loved one. I know I am. I want an amazing date night and to spend some good quality time with my man. I would love to dress up and get out of the house baby free! I want to eat some amazing food and have good quality conversation with my husband. And like most of you I am ready for some good bedroom fun!

I am going to be 100% straight forward with you so if you want to bail on this blog post you can before it is too late. I am going to give you my tips that I have learned to use oils for romantic moments. So now that you are warned I am excited to teach you. First and for most I have to give Lucy Libido credit for opening my eyes to what oils can do in the bedroom and encouraging me to give it a try. She is the author of a book all about how oils can help you in the bedroom. I have been in a class of her's on Facebook and loved it so much good information. Today I am not doing to share with you her tips but the ones I know work. But first I have to share her book with you! Order it!! Seriously you will learn so much more than just what I am sharing with you!

 Okay so I have just a few tips for you! I am just recently getting started with using oils for romantic use. But I had to share with you ASAP because you need a happy and fulfilling life!! Not to mention God made loving for us to enjoy and he made us oils too!

• Joy: Use Joy essential oil at the beginning of your day. It helps keep your mind positive and makes sure even a bad day can't ruin your evening with your hubbie. Also if your man tends to get stressed out at work, put a few drops of joy in his underwear and problem solved!!! And you do not have to tell him, just do it when folding clothes. 
• Stress Away: Use this oil to help calm both of you down and help you relax. It is great after a long day at work or just a busy day. It makes bedroom time stress free and clears your head so you aren't thinking of what item you're missing on the grocery list. 
• Shutran Shaving Lotion: Obviously having Shutran oil on hand is ideal but it is like $75 a bottle. So for us I bought Daniel the after shave which was cheaper to start with. I am planning on ordering the oil ASAP. It smells super good and I honestly like it more than cologne. Shutran is often described as making women go crazy for their man and some women won't let their husband wear it when they aren't with her.
• Ylang Ylang: This one is amazing just trust me. History shows that back in the day in India, they lined the newly married couples bed with Ylang Ylang to make for an amazing wedding night. They had good reason for doing that!!! Apply to the wrists, back of the neck or inner thigh. 
• Sensation Massage Oil: First off I totally think the label should be pink!!! Why green?!?! But anyways this blend of oils will CHANGE YOUR LIFE!!! Apply to you and your hubbie's inner thighs. Trust me. 

Follow exactly what I said and you will be having an Oh so Happy Valentines Day!

Your Welcome!! xoxo

The Top Ten Ways I Show my Husband that I Love Him

One of the hardest issues in Daniel and I’s relationship has been learning how to show each other love. We were great at showing each other love in our own love language but awful at speaking the others. We did the love language quiz and Daniel was 3 and I was the other 2. No real common ground and few over lapping answers. We would have been 100% screw if we did not work at helping each other see what our love languages were and how to show each other love. I hint to Daniel what I need/want and he does the same for me. I highly suggest you order The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts and read it to start off with so you know for sure what your husband’s love language is.

For Daniel though he loves quality time, physical touch, and words of affirmation. I have learned through tons of brainstorming and talking to Daniel what to do. It was 100% a learned sort of love. Because for the first few month of our relationship I showered him in gifts and did tons of cooking for him. I thought he was going to be full of love tokens but really it only worked so much. So here are my top 10 ways I show Daniel I love him.

1.       Love Notes: I sometimes make Daniel’s lunch for work. When I get to do this I will write a sweet note to him or put a piece of candy in his lunch box. It is easy and so quick to do, but it really means a lot.

2.       Learn to enjoy his Interests: This comes to play big time in what we watch on TV. Daniel is an action and scary movie guy. I am a romance, comedy, and drama girl. I have learned to enjoy UFC fights. I try to understand football. We have found shows that I can dig that are his kind of shows. Here are a few: Timeless, Lethal Weapon, and Super Girl.

3.       Pray for Him: I know to Daniel this probably means so little because he honestly has NO idea how often I do it or what I say. But I make a priority to pray for him as often as I can.

4.       Massages: Daniel works hard and stands up all day painting. He comes home sore and tired and sometimes I get to show him love in a massage. I enjoy giving a massage and love using the oils with it. I do though tend to grumble and complain about this one. But if I focus on how much I love him, all of my attitude falls away.

5.       Let Him be a Man: I HATE HATE HATE this one. As a woman I want him to be home as much as he can and be around me all the time, till I need alone time. But he on the other hands needs time outdoors and loves to camp. I love that too but I am not going camping with a 3 month old. I am not crazy. So I have to sacrifice some time with him so he can go be a man. He needs to use his machete, build a fire, and be a man. It stinks and is lonely but a man needs to feel like a man.

6.       Cuddles: I either HATE cuddles or really need them. Daniel is the same way. Sad thing is when he needs cuddles 9 times out of 10 I so do NOT want to cuddle. It is like Satan in action. But giving up my personal space and feel squished for a little bit is worth it to make your man feel loved. Not to mention once I get over myself cuddles are truly the best!

7.       Encouragement: I constantly try to affirm Daniel in what he does. Well the good things he does. I want him to know how good of a father he is, how amazing of a worker he is, and how great of a husband he is.

8.       Doing the Tasks he Hates: Daniel doesn’t like paying bills, doing paper work, budgeting, or making appointments. I don’t LOVE doing those things but I can do them. I would rather do those things than see him unhappily doing them.

9.       Oil him Up: One way I show him love is staying in tuned with how he feels. When he is depressed I will cover him in Joy, Stress Away, and Valor. When he is in pain I put Deep Relief and Orthosport on him.

10.   Brag About Him: Being your husband’s cheerleader is a common topic anymore. I think lots of women try and do it in the home. That is good and all but you should be so proud of him that you are screaming about it from the rooftops. No one else in the world is just like your husband, NO ONE! You should be bragging about how amazing he is. For Example: Daniel has a really good singing voice though he would never admit it, Daniel’s real laugh is so contagious its crazy, or Daniel is so good at learning new trades and rocking it. Share those traits with your friends when you talk about your husband.

I am by NO means perfect at loving my husband. You can ask him! He will tell you many days I fail miserably. But the point is I try. I have set down and pinpointed what I do that he receives as love. I have tried many love actions and failed many times because say gifts don’t show him love or I thought he liked a certain food and he did not. I want to make him feel more loved and accepted than he has ever felt in his life. Why? Because I know how it feels to be lonely, I know how it feels to feel worthless, and I know what it feels like to think no one really loves me. I never want him to feel that way. I never want him to feel like he doesn’t matter or isn’t one of the most important people on the planet. Because to David and I, he the most important person!