Five Tips for Reclaiming your Intimacy Postpartum

It is sad how easily the thing that creates a beautiful life can be ruined after that life comes into the world. I was shocked when a poll came across my due date group on who had been intimate with their spouse four months after our due dates. Many women are afraid, have no desire to, cannot imagine finding the time or space to simply have sex with their husbands after childbirth. Obviously I suggest waiting the six weeks it is important for your body to heal. I found after time with my second childbirth it was very important to be intimate with my husband. It helped me not get lost in motherhood and feel like a beautiful woman again.

I share everything with you to help you. I did not do any of this after my first child and our marriage suffered greatly for it. I found very little info when looking for help after having my kids and was left to figure things out on my own and do tons of research. I am going to give you 5 tips to help you enjoy your postpartum sex life. I do include affiliate links and sponsored products as with all my other content. Purchasing from these links helps me to keep providing you with great content.

1. Create Time and Space for Intimacy. Find the time in the little gaps of your day. Get up early or stay up late. Also as a woman sometimes it helps to mentally get prepared and plan for it. You also have to create space. For those parent who co-sleep you need to find a way to have to you baby sleep in their own bed every once in a while. You also could put your child to bed early. It takes sacrifice but it is worth it.
2. After having a baby your body does not just bounce back. We all know that from are stretch marks and weight gain. For those problems we get cream to fade the marks and we workout or eat healthy to lose weight. But somehow we expect our lady parts to recover on their own. It does not work that way. I highly recommend doing pelvic floor exercises daily. I used this video to guide me. I also did 2 belly dancing classes virtually and I was incredibly amazed as to how much it engaged the muscles that had not been engaged since childbirth. I highly recommend taking a belly dancing class in person or online. I took lessons with these two amazing ladies: Amayah and Janelle. Trust me it is well worth your time and money. Getting your pelvic floor working properly again is key.
3. Let's talk lube. I never listened to the doctors when they said you must use lube after childbirth. I mean its sticky and yucky. EW! Anyways I found a product that is all  natural and works better than anything I have ever tired on the market. It is called Coconu. Coconu values integrity in their products and use only plant-based and non-GMO ingredients. They use the same guidelines for the food I eat in the products they make for our bodies. The Coconu products are made with ingredients like coconut oil, beeswax, cocoa butter, and shea butter. Now what does all this mean on a tangible level. It is not messy or sticky. It is extremely moisturizing and soaks into your skin eventually, which makes for an easy clean up. Personally I like it better than unnatural lubricant. There are two type: water based and oil base. Both have the same ingredients they just have changed the base ingredient water or oil. The oil based lube is our favorite. It is smooth and takes a longer time to soak in. The water based lube has almost a cooling effect. It is very moisturizing but does not last quite as long as the oil based. Daniel and I both can tell a huge difference when using it. I highly recommend getting both to try out here, by doing so you get to support a small business. I also want to give you 15% off by using my code THEWILDWESTDEBORAH
4. Essential Oils were a huge key in getting my body back to normal. I used the Lucy Libido says There's an Oil for THAT: A Girlfriend's Guide to Using Oils Between the Sheets. It was an incredibly helpful book of ideas. They are all tested too; not in labs but by women just like you and me at home. My go to oils were Sensation, Ylang Ylang, Progessence Plus, and Sensation Massage Oil. I do recommend using Young Living Oils because of their Seed to Seal promise. They are the only essential oil company to not use third party farms. Their oils come from their own farms all over the world. They are completely organic and you can visit any of their farms and see for yourself their quality control. I want the products I use on my body and my family bodies to be 100% safe. I only trust Young Living with that job. If you want to become a member and get 25 % off all oils sign up here with your custom starter kit! Once you do sign up as my client I would love to get on a Zoom call with you and teach you about the oils and get you a custom plan on how they can help you. 
5. Take the fear out of sex. Come up with a birth control plan. I have had too many good times ruined because I was freaking out about not using any protection.  Fear is the bedroom is the quickest way to ruin a good time. Talk about it with your husband and make a plan.

Now that I have given you these 5 tips I want to encourage you to pick at least 3 if not all 5 to implement. It is important that you not just read this blog but take action. I am proud of you for researching and trying to find a solution but action is required. I want you to have a great intimate relationship with you spouse and it starts with action. If you liked this content please share it with a girlfriend who need to hear this.